The Power of Being Average: Embrace Your Identity and Shine Brightly

How would you feel if someone called you 'normal'? In our quest for excellence, we often believe that being 'average' is a weakness, but in reality, it can be the best thing ever. Here's why being average can actually fuel your passion to shine and how to embrace your identity without letting others' opinions define you.

The Myth of Above-Average

In the eyes of some, even the greatest of all time, like Tom Brady, was once an "average" selection. In the 2000 NFL draft, he was the 6th round, 199th overall pick. Yet, he became the 'greatest player in NFL history.' This case study, no matter how famous or successful the person, serves as a reminder that 'average' can be powerful. It can spark a determination within you to prove yourself, making you better than ever.

Why ‘Average’ is Sometimes the Best

Sometimes, when someone labels you 'average,' it can be insulting. But it can also be motivational, especially if you decide to use it to motivate yourself. It forces you to reassess your current status and strive for greatness. Instead of taking it personally, you can choose to leverage it as a challenge to achieve more.

When Morale Meets Reality

Just last night, one of my coworkers called me the 'most extremely average person' she's ever met. This comment left me feeling uneasy for several hours. However, I realized that this is just someone's opinion and my own opinion of myself matters far more. If you feel that you're average and you're fine with it, then it's all good. But if not, use it as a secondary motivation to work towards greatness.

Defining ‘Average’ for Yourself

Life is about choosing how you want to steer your path. Whether you consider yourself to be average or not, the key is to define your own path and make sure you're not stepping on others' boundaries. Look at life from your own perspective and focus on what you can control. Each person's journey is unique, and your journey is your own. You are the driver of your life.

Ambition and Self-Reflection

I recently heard someone say, 'If someone calls you average, it’s their point of view, and I can’t please everyone. So I wouldn’t mind.' This reflects a sense of self-acceptance and growth. Instead of being offended by others' opinions, it's wise to view them as just that—opinions. Reflect on your own ambitions and consider whether you are happy with your current journey.

Contributing to Social Groups

Humans love irony and paradox. We seek to conform to the norms of our social groups and, at the same time, stand out uniquely from subgroups. We need to find the balance between fitting in and standing out. For instance, among a large cohort, being average might be seen positively as it conforms to the norms. Yet, when you define yourself as competent or accomplished, being called 'average' can feel like depreciation. You may feel that you're being devalued and marginalized.

The Circle of Life

Everyone wants to fit in neatly. Believe it or not, fitting in can be important. We strive to belong to a group where we can contribute value and serve a role. For example, in a subgroup of specialists or experts, you are likely to be motivated to add value and be accepted by equally competent peers. This is where you might be called on to contribute your individual gifts to the larger social group. Being labeled 'average' can be frustrating, especially if you believe you have reached a certain level of mastery.

Navigating Social Contracts and Personal Value

Across cultures, there is a tacit agreement that in order to be a member of a social group, each individual must contribute both to the group and to their own personal value. Historically, members of a group, whether it's an entire community, all males or females, or a specialized subgroup, played essential roles in maintaining safety, peace, and civility. From planting to hunting, everyone had a role, and distinguished individuals and specialized subgroups served exclusive roles. This highlights the importance of self-worth and the value of individual contributions.

Conclusion

Whether you consider yourself to be 'average' or not, remember that it's ultimately up to you to define your journey and contributions. Embrace your identity without letting others' opinions determine your self-worth. Always strive to find your purpose and shine brightly in your unique way. The journey is yours to navigate, and every step you take brings you closer to your true self and your goals. So, next time someone calls you 'average,' use it as a challenge to shine even brighter.